Work hard and be patient ✨ That is my motto and I tell it to the gals I mentor all the time!! So many things in life just take time - it's all about doing the daily work and waiting for the magic to come. Not giving up. Resting, but not quitting. The work will be full of so many doubts (OHHHH so many doubts) and probably a lot of set backs and challenges. But every once and awhile, the stars align and what you've been creating appears. You couldn't see it, but it was there - happening - the whole time. And when that happens, man it feels good! So here's your reminder that whatever you're working on...keep at it. Work hard. And then be patient as hell ✨
PSA: If your pants are feeling tight, it's okay to buy the next size up 💕 Our bodies fluctuate, and we don't have to punish ourselves by believing our bodies should stay stagnant. We don't have to eat less that day, or exercise extra. We can be gentle with ourselves and accept ourselves now.
Sometimes my ulcerative colitis does a number on my body image. My belly size fluctuates a lot. My pants fit, then they don't. Psychologically, that is hard and misleading! It can make me feel bad and spiral into a hard place. Lately, my mind has been bogged down by those too tight pants so you know what I did? I gave myself the grace and permission to just get some bigger pants! And you know what, I feel awesome today.
So in case you need it too, here's your permission slip to just go up a dang size! It doesn't say anything about your worth. You matter and you are enough - no matter what the scale or your jean size says (or what your mind tells you!) 💓
Ps these are Universal Thread from Target and are super comfy!! #targetstyle
Here's your friendly reminder to love yourself right now! You are perfect, enough, and worthy - flab, stretch marks, softness, curves - all of you! We are each so different and I hope we can each work hard to embrace our body this summer - honoring what it DOES for us, more than how it looks. For me it's a CONSTANT work in progress to feel positive about my body so just know, I'm posting this for me just as much as anyone - here's to self love 💕
Is self care something to have to work to deserve? My treat for...
Running myself ragged?
Doing something of note?
Getting the kids all settled and asleep?
My treat for being a beautiful human being who deserves a nice bath just because. Not as a reward for doing this or that or surviving another day, but because it's always my right to treat myself with love and care.
Self care doesn't have to be earned and it doesn't have to be a reward. It is a right and a responsibility. Find a way to show yourself some love today with no strings attached!! It could be listening to some good music, saying no to a commitment, time to sit and drink something warm, a nap, laughing or dancing...the list is endless! Then give yourself a little hug because you always deserve it, no matter what. Today mine looks like an aromatherapy bath because it's something I've been craving - today I'm finally carving out the time! I am a making myself a priority.
Tell me - does self care come easy for you or is it a challenge?
Here is an easy peasy face serum!! I love using this as a moisturizer - it helps my skin maintain a healthy glow. You only need a small amount + you're avoiding hormone disrupting chemicals + getting the benefits of nature. Perfection.
In a 4 oz dropper bottle combine:
Avocado or Jojoba oil
2 drops Frankincense
2 drops Geranium
2 drops Ylang Ylang
2 drops Lavender
2 drops Melaleuca (if you struggle with blemishes)
Massage a tiny bit into the face to moisturize!
See my other natural face product recommendations HERE.
Learn about my favorite essential oils HERE.
Well, I am dusting off the old blog!!
I remember the days where I used to blog every day...the days when I only had one kid. Haha! And I literally couldn't imagine a time where I wouldn't have the time to blog.
Well, as you have all probably noticed...that day has come. I no longer MAKE the time to write on this poor blog but I always think about it!
Thank goodness for Instagram...THAT is a pace I can keep up with as a busy mama. However, I do want to write here more. Let's call it a New Year Resolution...maybe.
Anyways. So, over the years, I have written extensively about my health journey - both here on this blog and on my Instagram.
Most of you know how much I have struggled with depression over the years. Well, once more, perhaps because of the winter season, I am fighting a bit of depression. Mostly very low energy and NO motivation to be healthy. That sucks! Especially as a health coach and as someone who is extremely conscientious about their health and loves to share that passion with others!
But it's true. I'm having a hard time eating healthy. I always feel best mentally, emotionally, and physically when I am eating really well - and I tend to feel awesome when I'm eating a Whole30 type diet, so it's been on my mind the past few months to do another one.
However, I've had to be gentle with myself because I knew I just couldn't take on that type of task yet with my depression. I am feeling well enough now that I *might* be able to handle it, which is why I am contemplating it more seriously. So I thought I'd share what that journey looks like for me and why I have decided to do yet another round of the good old Whole30.
- I feel REALLY good when I am on Whole30. More energy than normal. Amazing sleep. A happier mood. A clearer mind and complexion.
- When I have mentally committed to something, it is much easier for me to stick with it. For me, the strictness of a program like Whole30 is helpful. I am a lot less likely to fall off the bandwagon if I have a clear goal in mind.
- I do better when it's ALL OR NOTHING. Meaning, if I say I am going to go off of sugar but I don't really mean it and I still allow all sorts of cheats, I always end up failing. When I make a conscious decision to go off of ALL sugar, I just do better. Period.
- With a program like Whole30, I can commit to taking better care of myself for 30 days. My self-care goes way downhill during depressive episodes (including not even feeding myself for hours and hours at a time), so this is sort of a way to say to myself "I love you and I am willing to work hard for you." It feels like a huge sacrifice and it's actually super scary to commit to, though.
- I have been eating emotionally to cope with depression and I need to kick that habit...and lose the pounds I've gained in the meantime. Whole30 isn't about weight loss, but that's a nice side effect that comes with better health. I would be lying if I said I wasn't interested in losing a few pounds.
So, there you have it. Those are my thoughts - and I am sure I'll think of more the second I hit publish. I mostly just feel like I need to do this. It feels intuitive and that's what I think is most important.
Whatever you do in life, make sure it feels good and intuitive for you.
I'd like to quickly share my thoughts on some of the criticisms of Whole30:
Often times, people have a hard time transitioning back to a regular diet without guilt. I totally get this because I've been there. I think it's a journey we've all taken. I am grateful to say I have mostly been able to overcome those feelings of guilt and shame that come with eating things that are "bad' or labeled as "unhealthy." If I do a round of Whole30, and then eat some sugar or something that is not Whole30 approved, I am not for a minute going to feel bad about myself (and I'd argue, that is not what the creators of Whole30 intended)! I have worked so hard over the past few years to really approach life from a place of love and that is how I am approaching this. I am doing it because I love myself and every action I take is to show myself more love. So whether I am eating a donut or a bowl of salad, I am loveable and enough...exactly as I am in that moment.
Whole30 is not for everyone but it is something that helps me! I personally cannot stick to it for months and months at a time like some people do but once more that doesn't mean I am not enough or not doing "healthy" right. We all have to find our balance - and I am still trying to find mine. This round is part of it!
What are your thoughts? Have you done Whole30? Are you totally turned off by the idea? If you have depression, do you feel better when eating healthy too? I'd love to hear from you!
PS, I am updating my Cleanse Your Life Healing Program - so if you want to get Whole30 approved recipes, this e-book would be perfect for you! Don't buy it yet though...I am doing a sale just as soon as I get it updated and would love for you to wait for the deal <3 Stay tuned.
I did another Periscope a few weeks ago talking about dealing with Depression - many people loved it and many people wanted to see it but didn't have the chance, so I'm posting it for you here!
I hope this information is helpful for you! If you ever need to talk or want more ideas, email me at firstname.lastname@example.org.
PS! I am so sorry the video plays sideways, I don't know how to rotate it!
Clear back in July I wrote a post entitled Clarity, wherein I expressed some of the things that have been stirring in my soul and how I'd like to begin writing more about them. I guess I have had a lot of fear to overcome because not much has poured out since then. You see, it's easy for me to write about physical health, real food, self-love, even my experiences with depression. It's not as easy to write about spirituality.
When I say spirituality, I do not mean religion. Spirituality surely does exist within religion, but spirituality and religion are not one in the same. This is a new truth I have discovered and one that has brought me so much peace, clarity, and self-acceptance.
What I mean when I say "spirituality" is this - striving to live life connected to my highest self, connected to the source of all love. For many, this knowledge happens within religion. For others it doesn't.
For myself personally, connecting to my spiritual self has been a process that has happened outside of the walls of religion. The journey of self-discovery has been beautiful and yet brutally painful. But through this process, I have discovered my own unique spiritual language.
I believe we all have a spiritual language. You know what it is because when you find something that resonates with you spiritually, you FEEL it...deep inside. For many years I felt broken spiritually because I confused spirituality with religion. Within religion, I battled feelings of shame (never being enough at my core). That shame told me I wasn't religious enough. I wasn't perfect enough. I wasn't worthy enough. I wasn't doing enough or what I WAS doing wasn't enough. Never ever enough. Endless checklists. Exhaustion. Therefore, I concluded that I wasn't spiritual.
Rediscovering my spirituality has been deeply healing for me and has blessed me with the ability to journey in this life from a place of self-love and self-acceptance. Understanding that I am ALREADY spiritual (!!) and that being spiritual is not the same as being religious has been freeing to me. Coming to know that spirituality is not a check-list but that it is something so much deeper, something that cannot be explained or put into words (by me, at least) has been life-altering.
Again, this isn't to say that some people do not discover this deep, inherent spirituality within religion, for the teachings are definitely there - and many, many people do find this spirituality there. It's just that I didn't find it there in a way that spoke deeply to me or resonated with me. I don't really know what my future looks like or if it even includes religion in it. That is a scary thing to type and it has been something that I have felt an immense amount of shame about. So much depression and self-hatred surrounding that. But I have found through this process that I need to be honest and authentic.
Authenticity comes easily for me in most areas of my life, but not spiritually. I have always wanted so badly to fit in, so I have done all that I needed to do in order to fit in and be perfect and be safe. I have battled feelings of failure if I shared my true feelings. Feelings of weakness. Unworthiness (meaning not worthy of love). Being inauthentic does not make me happy though, so part of loving myself and accepting myself completely, includes sharing with others where I am at (at the time that has been appropriate for each relationship). Authenticity is vulnerable. But connection comes through vulnerability. So here is me, strapping on my courageous boots and speaking MY truth. Thank you Brene Brown for teaching me so much about shedding shame and living a wholehearted life!
There are some ways that I personally connect to my deepest spiritual self and they look different than what I confused in my head as being highly religious. I feel highly spiritual when I am in solitude. When I am pondering deeply. When I am meditating. When I am living life from a place of pure love. When I am laughing or connecting deeply with another human being. When I am walking in nature.
I felt like a failure when I did x-y-and-z in a religious context and felt blank. "There must be something wrong with me. I must not be trying hard enough. If I just changed who I am, then I'd feel the way 'everyone' else does." I felt like I had to earn love. From my parents. From God. I had an inherent defect. In all reality, I have been perfect all along! God made me perfectly. My deep thinking is exactly how I am made to be! My intuitive nature...perfect for me. My thoughtfulness. My sensitivity. My open mind. All exactly the way God intended me to be.
Letting go of the "shoulds" and embracing the true ME has skyrocketed my personal healing journey of self-love...whereas before I felt stuck and like I could never fully love and accept myself because I wasn't spiritual enough, coming to recognize the way I DO SPIRITUALITY and loving that instead of shaming that, has changed my world. I am a truth seeker. I am always motivated to do the right thing. I am deeply thoughtful. And I live a life of integrity. Living a life of integrity to me means aligning always with what I feel deep down. I now, for the first time in my life, feel truly aligned with my WHOLE self and it feels so good.
I recently saw this quote on Brene Brown's Facebook page and it put into words what I have not been able to say. She said:
For the first time in my life, I do not know what my religious future looks like. That was, at first, incredibly scary and painful. Ohhhhh so painful. But as I have learned in many other areas, letting go of the need for control is truly important. As I have let go of the need to control and to see each step in front of the other, I have found peace.* To me, this is the essence of faith. I have found freedom in learning to deal with uncertainty.
And what I've found is that uncertainty can be beautiful.
*However this is all a PRACTICE. When I lose sight of my highest self and I start needing to control, and to see everything clearly at all times, the pain and the fear come right back. Aligning with who I truly am puts me right back on the fast track to inner peace.
(I want to clarify that I take (or am always trying to) full responsibility for all of the feelings and beliefs I have formed over my life. For me, my big trigger is religion. For you it could be parents, siblings, God, etc. I am not saying anything is inherently wrong with religion nor do I wish to go further into any of my triggers surrounding religion. I also do not blame religion for the way I interpreted the teachings. It is just simply for me, one area of my life that has served as a large trigger for discovering and loving myself, whether that is to happen within or without.)
The following are some of the key resources that have helped me tremendously on my path of self-love and self-acceptance:
1. Aura Personalities - This book - bar none - has helped me to come to understand my innate gifts and the magnificent potential that I hold. It helped me see my spiritual gifts. (Disclaimer: I am a certified Aura Personalities consultant and can help you with that journey of self-love but you can also get the book and read it which will be incredibly helpful. If you feel drawn to it, definitely check it out. I could honestly care LESS whether or not you do a consultation with me, I share this because it was such a life-changing resource for me!)
2. The Child Whisperer - I got this book for my children but it helped me more than anything! It was incredibly healing for my inner child and helped validate so many things about myself that I thought were flaws. LOVE this information.
3. You Can Heal Your Life - This book has been so helpful in guiding me on how to change my inner script to a more positive one. It gave me power to make change.
4. Soul Integrity Mentorship - Taught by Staci Sadler, author or Aura Personalities, this mentorship was 15 weeks and taught me sooooo many life-changing principles like finding my own personal pace, letting go of victimhood and co-dependency, and living life in alignment.
5. A Blog About Love Choose Happiness Retreat - The way Mara and Danny taught things solidified so much of my own learning and really boosted me to the next level of self-acceptance. Highly, highly recommended!